If you were living a different life and were suddenly plunged into the midst of your current life, would you stay or would you jump out?
A frog put into a pot of near boiling water would instantly jump out. But, if the frog is put in the water before it was heated, and the heat gradually increases, she boils to her death. What is the temperature of your current life situation?
The Temperature Rises
You start out educating yourself, getting a job, setting up your life, you maybe get married, buy a house, have a family, keep working, forge, build, maintain relationships and then, over time challenges crop up in an area or two of your life, but you manage them and seem to handle the extra stress ok. Then a few more challenges crop up in other areas of your life, and some cracks start to break open in your relationships. You resourcefully manage all of them. But the challenges and cracks keep coming, even as you gain more success in your goals or your career and then one day you wake up and realize that your loved ones are in crisis, they are relying heavily on you to help them. You don’t seem to have any choice in your day-to-day activities.
You’re a young adult, just starting out, but the water in your pot is already a tad too warm. The expectations on you to achieve, succeed, be all you can be because, gosh darn, you’ve been given so many more advantages than your parents were given and they can’t understand, or see, the enormous social and peer pressure you’re under, so you just go ahead and jump in, because really, what other choice do you have?
Now add in current world crises. You are the frog in the boiling pot.
The Set Up
Women coming to see me now are doing so because the heat has become unbearable. None of it’s our fault. We’ve been set up. We are raised to be care-givers and problem solvers. The only REAL validation and attention we receive is from doing this — doing more and more for others and denying our own needs. And as we continue, not having enough resources and/or time to tend to our own needs–We are Emotionally Neglected–while we manage the crisis our loved ones are in, we plunge ourselves into the danger zone of burn out.
There are ways to end this pattern, and unfortunately, we are the ones that are having to do the changing. When we break the pattern of FEMALE EMOTIONAL NEGLECT in our own lives, it changes the lives of our loved ones and that impacts the way society goes.
YOU doing what is best for YOU is what is best for EVERYONE.
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