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Can You be Happy for Others?

5/6/2019

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Can you be happy for a friend/loved one, or even a stranger (!), when things are not so great for you? And, can you be sensitive when things are great for you and not so great for your friend?
 
I am in relationships with people who know what my struggle is, my current woes and they are so gracious and tender with me. I watch as they tamp down their joy, happiness or good fortune. I ASSURE you; I am truly happy for them and their happiness and success. I can feel sad or have struggle and still have space/capability to celebrate with another.
 
Belief in Scarcity
I also am in relationships with people who are jealous of what goodness/happiness/success others have and actively lament the fact. This confuses me. I can’t understand how the happiness/success of another takes anything away or threatens another. It must boil down to the belief in scarcity–there is only so much resource to go around. So, if you have lots, it must mean there is less for me. I have more to say about jealousy HERE. I’m pretty sure happiness and success are first, defined by the individual – everyone’s idea is different and second, potential for happiness and success are unlimited.
 
Also, I know many who say they are ‘relieved’ when tragedy befalls another, because it has therefore, ‘missed’ them. Is misfortune a dark energy that seeks prey?

What Does it Mean?
I’m not sure what being able to be happy for others when you're not doing well is a sign of; maturity? (age!), self-esteem? (probably a little). Expansion? (you can see more than one side of things). Good mirroring? (you have good emotional sensitivity.) All of the above? And other things.

Isn’t it Great?
We all live in parallel universes. We are all having individual experiences alongside our fellow humans all at the same time. Isn’t it great that we can have so many experiences? Isn’t it amazing that we are able to be in our own experience, while at the same time observing, witnessing and celebrating the experience of another?
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Where You'll Find the Answers

16/5/2019

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During a recent conversation with a beautiful friend she said to me, you look so good! Tell me, what you do! I self-deprecated, of course, and replied all in a gosh-you’re-so-kind sort of way and also you haven’t seen me first-thing-in-the-morning, but she stopped me and said, ‘No! Seriously! Tell me. What do you eat for breakfast? Then, I understood.
 
You Know You Know
I know exactly what she’s asking about. I was and still am, in many cases, looking for the ‘magic answer.’ The magic answer that will make me thin, restore my relationships, make me happy, give me success. But, as you know, even if you don’t want to know, there is no magic answer.
 
We all search outside of ourselves for wisdom, advice and direction. And that’s ok. But we still must apply that wisdom, advice and direction to our lives. And even then, what works for someone else, may not work for us. In fact, it rarely does because all the factors that go into making us, us, cannot be duplicated.
 
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The answer to all of your questions about you, is inside of you. There, I said it! Sorry, I can’t figure out a less Yoda/guru way to say it. The answer is also, you have to figure you out. It gets confusing when we are always being ‘sold’ to. Someone is always telling us they have the answer to whatever it is you feel you are deficient in, or you could improve. Don’t be tricked. You have the answers. You have to figure it out by trial and error.
 
Clues to Observe
Your body may tell you what works in the form of ease and energy and what doesn’t in the form of sluggishness, discomfort and dis-ease.
Your mind may tell you what works in the form of calm and peace and in the form of anxiety and stress, what doesn’t.
Your heart may tell you in the form of openness and lightness what works and in the form of tightness and contraction what doesn’t.
You Spirit may tell you what works in the form of ‘knowing,’ synchronicities and signs that are meaningful to you and what doesn’t in the form of blankness and heaviness.
 
Your Journey and My Journey are Not the Same
To answer my friend’s question honestly, I would have to go back and recount all of the lessons I’ve learned, transitions I’ve made, behaviours and beliefs that I’ve added and behaviours and beliefs I’ve dropped. And what I'm doing now, today will most likely change tomorrow. And even if, she could somehow duplicate everything I have done and am doing, her results would be different. Our journeys are different. Keep all this in mind when you're 'following' someone. 
 
Want to hear the answers coming from within yourself? Slow down. Stop even. Ask questions. Observe. The answers will come. And then… act on them.
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Life Begins at the End of Your Comfort Zone

8/5/2019

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The Challenge Life
 
The goal of our ancestors was to survive. Life was thrilling and challenging enough finding and gathering food and finding and building shelter as protection from the elements and predators. Today our challenges are not survival, but, stretching our limits. Our limits are mental, emotional and physical. Challenging ourselves is actually good for us.
 
Science is now backing this up. We already know this about physical fitness. When you stress, or challenge a muscle, it improves its ability and gets stronger. The same is true when we challenge ourselves mentally and emotionally. When we do anything that is out of our comfort zone, and succeed, we get a huge rush of adrenaline and a happiness buzz that changes our brains and we want to experience that thrill again. But, doing something like, say, scale a rock face or pass a piano exam, more than once, does not produce the same level of joy. Intensity of feeling diminishes with each repetition, so we need to keep doing something new and different, as in, find a new challenge.
 
Thankfully, there are an unlimited supply of challenges available!
 
For the Sake of Your Health, Leave Your Comfort Zone
 
Back to science for a sec, the chemistry in our body changes when we are in a negative or unhealthy, stressful state. It makes us sick. Literally. The cells in our bodies first slow down their processes, sending as much energy to the stress-solving operation as possible. If the stress or ‘threat’ persists, cells shut down and eventually die off to the point that we develop at first, inflammation and then dis-ease and if left untreated/unchanged, death.
 
But, challenging our bodies and minds with healthy stress—things that give us a thrill of accomplishment—activates the cells in our bodies—repairing, building and producing them!
 
If you are currently comfortable, as in, your life is routine and you’re pretty set in what to expect most of the time, for your health’s sake, it may be time for you to challenge yourself.

The main reason we don’t go after our dreams is because we believe there are rules in place that disqualify us, or we talk ourselves out of pursuing our dreams because here and now feels safe and we believe safe is the point. Sorry, it’s not.
 
Challenge Your Thinking
If you’re not ready to sky dive, run your first marathon or perform stand up, just yet, here is a good primer to see where you are living by self-imposed rules. Your answers may lead you to actually go after something you’ve been ‘afraid’ to do. The point here is to challenge your rules.
 
Answer the following:
If people I knew wouldn’t find out, I would_____________________
If I knew I would be guaranteed success, I would_____________________
If money wasn’t an issue, I would _________________________

What about challenging your relationships?
What would you say if you were brave enough? ____________________
What would you ask if you weren't afraid of the answer? _______________

Your answers are your clues to where your comfort zone ends (and LIFE begins). I challenge you to do what you’ve written down. It’s literally good for you.

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Yes! You Can and Why You Should

17/4/2019

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I remember my very first client. At the end of our six sessions, she achieved her big dream. She got a job in a retail women's clothing store!
 
Maybe this is NOT your idea of a ‘big’ dream, but, coming from her small-town upbringing and living the life of a young wife and mother, this was, for her, a big dream. This was NOT about the job; it was about her attaining autonomy and a sense of power and accomplishment. She diligently overcame her fears and claimed a new level for herself.
 
Many, many, many clients later I find that no matter what the ‘level’ of the dream may be, the process of stepping out of where you are to get to a level you’ve not been before, is the same.
We all have a ‘set’ level of what and who we believe we are. If you want a better job or to leave your job, to find a partner or be divorced, lose weight, improve your finances, move, etc., there is a ‘next’ level you want that you probably have not experienced before.
 
The set of roadblocks each individual face may look different, but they can essentially be boiled down to fears to overcome. Most of the roadblocks standing between you now and you in your desired place are in your mind.
 
Realize ‘Comfortable’ is NOT the Goal
We are accustomed to where we are, even if it’s not great, familiar is tough to deliberately move away from. Fear keeps us from believing we can change/be different. And being comfortable has become our normal. The people that are the most ‘jazzed’ about life and themselves are doing things that make them uncomfortable on a regular basis. Feeling the fear and doing it anyway is how dreams are realized. Which leads me to…
 
Break It Down
Your dream should feel at least a bit daunting, or it isn’t going to change you and expand you for the better. Realize that you don’t have to do everything at once. Start small. Very, very small. Outline some broad steps you need to take in order to meet your goal. Break down those broad steps and then break them down again. Break them down to the point that doing one small action toward your goal each day feels easy.
 
Believe that it’s Possible
Looking around to see that others are doing what you want is a great way to believe that what you want is possible for you.
 
Do Something Radical
My first client’s very first step was hiring a Life Coach! In her world, this was a radical step. People where she was didn’t know what a Life Coach was. In order to get where you’ve not been before will require you to do things you haven’t done before.
 
Get Support
There will come a point in your journey, or maybe several points, where you will face doing something that will fire up all your fear alarms. You will again need to face the fear and do it anyway. It is so much easier to overcome fears and get out of your own way with support. My first client had to fill out a job application and show up for an interview—things that terrified her, but, she had me, someone who could guide her with tools that work and give support and encouragement through the process.
 
And Why You Should
Why should you put yourself through the stress and uncomfortableness of going for your dream or anything that will improve your life for the better? My first client doing her dream attainment not only improved and expanded herself, but she set an example for her children. And who knows how many countless women benefitted from her fashion advice in that retail clothing store?! You becoming and being your full self helps everyone.
 
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How to Simply Do Better

11/4/2019

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Do you find yourself with less energy? More irritable? What about just generally enjoying your life less? It is so easy to spiral, very slowly and almost imperceptibly, into the vortex of ‘not enough’ thinking and behaving. It is almost impossible NOT to do this when you spend time watching t.v. or on social media where we’re constantly bombarded with information that is “Guaranteed to Improve Your Life.”
 
I very recently slid down into the ‘not enough’ vortex. When I checked in with my thoughts, I discovered a plethora of quite critical, self-improvement agendas happening up in my head.
If this is you, you may have success with this very quick way to feel and DO better!
 
A Thought Inventory
Sit down, right now in fact! And do a brain dump. Write out every thought you can catch in your head. No editing. No judging. The beginning might just be your grocery list and errands you have to run today, but if you keep going, and stay honest, you’ll probably get to the underneath thought layers and you may be surprised.
 
Now Follow Those Thoughts to Your Feelings
You’ve probably read this a thousand times or more. But it bears repeating because our persistent negative thoughts, unfortunately, keep repeating. Our thoughts produce feelings! If you’re anything like me, the underneath thoughts are ones of not doing enough, not doing things right and fears of what may or may not happen in my future. These were the thoughts causing my feelings of irritability and making me shrink from participating in my life. Read your thought list. Check in with your feelings.
 
Make Another List
I made a list of things that I’m doing right. I amazed myself with how awesome I am! Not bragging. Ok. Bragging. And why not?? If we’re going to entertain the ‘not enough’ thoughts, then we should be able to give the doing good thoughts at least the same air time.
Go ahead. Make your list. What are you doing right? Go. Write!
Check in. How do you feel now?
 
Forgive Yourself Relentlessly
Of course, we can always improve! I’m all about growth and expansion. As long as the improving doesn’t spiral down into ‘not enough-ness,’ like it did/does for me. For those times that you mess up or don’t measure up to the standard you’ve set for yourself, forgive yourself relentlessly! I took this  line from Glennon Doyle. When a person on her social media feed asked her how she can get over her, sometimes spectacular mess ups!, Glennon said she forgave herself relentlessly, and we should too. Forgiveness/atonement is an inside job. When we are compassionate toward ourselves, we realize we are human. Wonderfully imperfect, perfect humans. This translates directly into compassion toward others. Another awesome feeling/action.
 

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Go Do Better
With my ‘things I’m doing right’ list, I got my ‘mojo’ back. I believe in myself again and it’s caused me to be better to myself and others.
 
Wonderful things happen when we feel good about ourselves. Better thoughts lead to better feelings which lead to better actions. Simple as that.
 
With your new focus on how awesome you are doing and the great feelings that brings, act on those feelings. Do something fun, kind, loving for yourself and/or someone else.
 
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Rules For Being a Good Woman Friend

12/3/2019

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Originally posted 11/10/201
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I truly believe that we as a whole—the whole of women, the feminine, the female species—are going through a major, significant transition.

Never before have we had such pressure and expectation upon us. And, never before have we had the opportunities combined with the knowledge and resources that we have now. We are all being called to be our higher selves, to become all that we’ve been ultimately designed to be. It is imperative that we understand that we are here to work together.

​*To change our worlds—our personal one and the large one—we must support and encourage one another. The time of doing it all on our own is over. We can’t sustain it without killing ourselves.
 
WE MUST LET GO OF JUDGEMENT! We must give up shaming, blaming, competing, etc. with each other. There is enough room for us all to have what we want most and to be who we are supposed to be.
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Rules for Being a Good Woman Friend
 
1)  You Are Not Her 
You may have a lot in common. You may have a long history together. You may know what she’s thinking and what she’s going to say before she does, but you are NOT her. You cannot know what is best for her. AND ‘mistakes’ (or ‘lessons’ as I call them), are necessary for her to get where she’s going. Sometimes avoiding an experience just prolongs the journey. She does NOT need your criticism or reasons why she’s bad and wrong. She’s already got that covered. As a matter of fact, this goes for every person. Stop criticizing and judging. You simply don’t know and you’re not in their shoes. Or, as Brene Brown says; you are not in the ring. Even if we are in the ‘same’ ring, we are to have our own experience in it.

2)  She’s Not Your Competition—Use Jealousy as Fuel
If your girlfriend is doing something, or has *something* you want or feel that you can do better than her, instead of ‘taking her down’ or stealing her idea, use it as inspiration to build on and rise. Tell her that she’s inspired you. Tell her you admire what she’s doing and it caused you to be and do better. Give her credit! Giving her acknowledgement does not take away from you. There is more than enough for us all.
 
If your girlfriend causes you to feel envy, look at that. *What has she got that you want? * Then ask yourself, are you willing to do what she did to get that? Envy/competition means there is something that is being triggered in you that wants attention. Find out what it is.
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​3)  Be a Grown Up About Your Feelings
If you feel misunderstood, offended, betrayed, hurt or angry by your friend, like all relationships, you must deal with it. Remind yourself that you have these emotions because you risked being vulnerable and open. You needed/wanted something from your friend and were met with something else. Figure it out. Is it them? Is it you? Once you are clear on what’s going on and can move from a place of curiosity not blame or hurt, be the mature, bigger person and go to your friend, sincerely wanting to work things out. This can only deepen your friendship or end it. Take the risk. Either way you win.

4)  Gossip Has Got to Go
If she’s dropping juicy tidbits or bitchy asides about someone who’s a ‘friend’ of hers, you can know 100% that she’s is saying similar things about you to others. Do NOT tolerate it. Stop it as it’s happening. Teach her that you will not participate in the taking down of another sister. Explain to your friend you are willing to listen if your friend is willing to address her real problem with her other friend. If she won’t say it to her, then she should not say it about her. And, the same goes for you! Do NOT go to someone else about your friend. Ever. If you can’t or won’t say it to her, don’t say it about her.
 
If she asks you to keep what she tells you to yourself. Keep it to yourself! You will not die from keeping a secret. AND, As juicy as it might feel and hard to resist, do not allow your friend to ‘dish’ on someone else to you.

5)  Call/Show Up
Make your friendship a two-way street. Call her when you are going through something. Ask for help. And, when she needs you, show up. Even if you can’t physically show up, texts, emails, notes, flowers, etc. help so much. This goes for good things too! Share and celebrate successes. One can never have too much support and encouragement. 

6)  See Her as More
The greatest service you can be to your friend (your child, your spouse, anyone) is to see them as more, as better, as their ‘higher self.’ As I mentioned at the beginning, her self-judgement is already causing her to feel small and less than if your friend is acting from her fear and her self-criticism. She needs to be reminded that she’s bigger, that she’s capable of rising. She needs you to believe in her and for her until her ‘sanity’ is restored.
 
7)  For Heaven’s Sake, Have Some Fun
Remember how much you and your friends laughed when you were young? Poke fun at yourself. Find a way to find humour in what’s going on in your current circumstances (if it’s not too dire). Regularly do something that reminds you that you know how to enjoy yourselves.
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I know I have failed as a friend on all of these points in my lifetime. And I’ve had friends fail me. But, we are here to learn, to grow and become our better to best selves. I'll keep showing up for my friends and I sincerely appreciate my mom, sisters, daughters and friends who have helped me through when I needed them most, know all about me and love me anyway.

We ARE the change we need to see in the world. Our actions inside our relationships with our girlfriends matter. There is always a ripple effect. Supporting, encouraging and growing one another is what the world needs.
 
(Helpful Hint: All of these ‘rules’ apply to our relationships with ourselves.)
 
*Something she has that you want? * This does NOT apply to significant others! If you are entertaining romantic notions about someone that your girlfriend is intimately/romantically involved with, seek help now! You are not ‘meant’ to be with someone that is with your friend. And, ‘he/she/they’ is not a catch if they’re with her and flirting with you.

*To change our worlds—personal and the large one—we must support and encourage one another. The time of doing it all on our own is over. We can’t sustain it without killing ourselves.

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If They Say

13/2/2019

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​If “They” say;
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Nobody will like the real you
Money is scarce/
you have to work hard for it
Life is hard
Change one/some/all things about yourself to be liked/loved
Success isn’t in your cards
Don’t risk anything
Never forgive
You’re not smart/talented/worthy enough
You’re not creative
Dreams don’t come true
 
Please recognize;
‘They’ have fear.
‘They’ contract, protect, cover
in an attempt to be/stay safe
(or sell you something!)
​If “They” say;
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You’re ‘flaws’ make you you
There’s more than enough
You’ve got this
Just do it
There’s always a way
How can I help?
I’m here for you
Your desires are there for a reason
How does it feel?
You can let go
You won’t break
You have choices
 
Please recognize;
‘They’’ have Love.
‘They’ expand, inquire and create
In order to experience and grow
Which 'They" are You?
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A Series of Shattered Illusions

30/1/2019

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Are you struggling right now? Are there things going on in your life that are hard to deal with? Are you feeling like it’s just one damn thing after another? Congratulations you are on an ‘awakening’ journey! 
 
If you’re anything like me, the word awakening gives me visions of a magical, spiritual experience where suddenly truth is before me, the world makes sense and I am now wise. In reality, ‘awakening’ is more of a shit-show! It is unpredictable, messy and hard. Think childbirth! In my coaching, we call it transition—just like in childbirth—the difficult birthing phase between being pregnant (the baby is not out) and being a parent (the baby is out). Transition/awakening is the most intense part.
 
What is Really Going on When We Are in Pain and Suffering?
So, back to what it is you’re struggling with. The biggest, most painful aspects of life as we know it are when our reality shifts. A big shift in reality shatters our illusions.
 
Whether we are aware of it or not, we are constantly imagining or forecasting into the future, based on what we think we have right now. Not that that’s a bad thing. It’s just that when anything in our current situation changes, we must understand that part of our shock and pain is that our ‘hoped’ for future(s) crumble or shatter. I remember distinctly this happening to me. I stood in the centre of my living room and witnessed reality make a big intrusion into my illusion. It felt exactly like a window shattering and behind it, I could finally see everything as it truly was, not how I had been imagining it, wishing and working so frickin’ hard for it to be.
 
When a marriage falls apart, for example, not only do our ideals about what a marriage is ‘supposed to be,’ shatter, but so does our current and future ‘reality.’ A reality we may or may not be aware that we built and were counting on.
 
What We Are Left With
After an episode of awakening, (good news/bad news; there are many on your awakening path) we must re-orient ourselves. It takes time. Once again, like childbirth, once that baby is real, we are no longer who we used to be, and we can’t go back. We are faced with making adjustments in ourselves and our environment. Once the shock and grief subside, we are left with really, only one thing; the choice of how to go forward. We must ask ourselves, who do we want to be? Our choice in the face of a new reality is to contract, withdraw or even lash out in anger and fear. OR, we can re-imagine by entertaining several new future-scapes based on the new, happening now information and who we choose to be.
 
Once awakening has been integrated, you will see that here and awake is so much better than where you were before—asleep, playing a role and putting so much energy into an illusion. Now you are more of who you are meant to be with opportunity to live freer and well, more alive. You’ve done it before. You can and will do it again.
 

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Is Punishing Yourself Working?

16/1/2019

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When I say ‘punish’ do you conjure up images of lashing yourself with a whip or sending yourself to stand in a corner until you fully realize the error of your ways and feel bad enough to not do it again? ‘not what I’m talking about.
 
What I mean by ‘punish’ is, how often you mentally berate yourself. You ate a piece of cake and your mental chatter kicks in with, ‘you should NOT have eaten that! You are on a diet, remember? You’re always cheating!’ Or, you’re gratefully tucked up into your bed and begin to go over all the things you ‘didn’t’ do that you were ‘supposed’ to do and all the things you did that you weren’t ‘supposed’ to do and now you’re awake well past your ideal sleeping time and you beat yourself up about that too.
 
How’s That Working for You?
 
The Sad/Bad News
I’ve talked about being ‘set’ to the negative before – our minds scanning for threats, so it’s ‘human nature’ that we scan our behaviours and do the same. We are also ‘programmed’ to criticize because of the inundation of ‘how to be perfect’ social construct we exist in. The more we concentrate on the negative and continually re-enforce it with our negative thought patterns, the less likely we will have any kind of success in changing our behaviours. That’s the sad/bad news.
 
The Good News
The antidote to all that negative thought looping, and in turn, no changed behaviour, is small rewards! Yes! Prizes, pats on the back, gold stars, you name it! We are no different than our pets. When ‘training’ any animal, reward is hands-down more effective than punishment. 
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The Small Rewards Test
I decided to test the ‘small rewards’ theory on my cats. I wanted to vacuum groom them. It seemed unlikely that I would succeed because the cats hated the sound of the vacuum and would disappear whenever it came out. I began with great patience, having no deadline. First, I brought out the vacuum brush and placed a treat beside it. They just got the treat. The next time I brought out the treats and the brush, I brushed them. They got 2 treats. Next, I brought out the treats, the brush and the vacuum. I would start the vacuum and they’d disappear. The next time, I got out the vacuum, they got a treat. I attached the brush and brushed them, they got a treat. I turned on the vacuum and put out a treat, they’d flee. Eventually, they would stick around for that treat. Once I got to the stage where they would stay while the vacuum was on, I got to brush them a few times, before they would exit. It finally happened they came out when the vacuum did because the vacuum grooming itself was the treat!
 
Reward What You Want
Reward the behaviour/actions you want to cultivate. Stop punishing the behaviour you don’t want - because in a weird way, you are re-enforcing the ‘negative’ behaviour because you’re giving it attention.
 
Start very, very small – like the vacuum and the cats. Put out your running shoes. Give yourself a high five. The next day, put out your shoes and your exercise clothes. Woot! Hug yourself. The next day put those clothes on! Two high fives. The next day, put on the shoes, the clothes and walk around the block. Gold star on the fridge! And so on. You get the idea. Be creative. Have fun.
 
When you tuck yourself in at night, run down the list of all the love/help/good you performed/gave in the day. Hug yourself and say I love you. Sleep well.

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What's Your Foundation?

10/1/2019

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What’s Your Foundation?
 
Here we are in 2019. Is it what you expected? Did you have a vision set for how things would be once you got to here? Have you got a vision for yourself for this year?
 
How the Bad is Good
Whether you are experiencing what you want or not, right here, right now, the fact is that we really do get to create what we want. IF we happen to be experiencing ‘shitty’ things, the ‘trouble’ we may be encountering, is called contrast—experiencing what you DON”T want—which, #goodnewsbelieveitornot, means that you have great information! You likely want the OPPOSITE of what you are experiencing. So, start doing that.
 
All the Same Building Blocks
I know I sound glib, but this is our work; To look for the clues to what will make us happy in the life that’s all around us. You see, if you start to look at what is all around you as building blocks of creation, then you can start to arrange them the way that is most pleasing to you. We all have the same blocks to build with; Our bodies, our relationships, our vocations/pastimes and the experiences we, well, experience, are building blocks to arrange as we please.
 
If you’re still reading, then you might be curious and even experiencing hope that what I’m saying can be true for you. Step number one is to believe, yes, it is possible to arrange things the way YOU want. You are not victim to any one or any circumstance even if, right now, it seems that you are.
 
Only Two Foundations
We are always creating/arranging our building blocks. The foundation of all of our creation is very simple. Our foundation is either love or fear.
 
The Fear Foundation is made up of things like; not enough (lack/scarcity), control, manipulation, contraction, holding in/holding on, grasping/needing, ingratitude.
The Foundation of Love is made up of things like; curiosity, openness, more-than-enough (abundance), collaboration, community, sharing, giving/generosity, gratitude.
 
On what foundation will you arrange your building blocks this year?

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