I've experienced this and I see my friends and 'sisters' continue to experience this. It breaks my heart.
The Internalized Patriarchal Model
Childhood emotional neglect is very common and recovery is possible. Even if you were not neglected as a child, if you're a woman, you have encountered the patriarchal model of womanhood. The prime components of this model are female self-sacrifice and female neglect. The model is so ingrained in our culture and in our female and male DNA that we are barely aware of it. We are not only controlled by patriarchal restrictions, we have internalized them to the degree that we are now controlling, editing and shutting down ourselves.
If you're a woman, you've likely been told at some point, you're too loud, talk too much and you're too emotional. There's a reason for this. It keeps our power in check. To effectively shut a woman and her power down, diminish her and relegate her to the background and constantly tell her she is 'too emotional.'
Female emotions are superpowers. Emotional outbursts happen because they are necessary.
Our Children Are Watching
When we recognize where we are shutting our power down, going along with the patriarchal model and take steps to recover from emotional neglect, recovery is possible.
When we recognize that our children, our sons and our daughters, are watching us, recovery is necessary.
*Notice where you are playing small, shutting down, being restricted
*Take effective recovery steps
*Begin to experience your life in a new way
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