Maybe this is NOT your idea of a ‘big’ dream, but, coming from her small-town upbringing and living the life of a young wife and mother, this was, for her, a big dream. This was NOT about the job; it was about her attaining autonomy and a sense of power and accomplishment. She diligently overcame her fears and claimed a new level for herself.
Many, many, many clients later I find that no matter what the ‘level’ of the dream may be, the process of stepping out of where you are to get to a level you’ve not been before, is the same.
We all have a ‘set’ level of what and who we believe we are. If you want a better job or to leave your job, to find a partner or be divorced, lose weight, improve your finances, move, etc., there is a ‘next’ level you want that you probably have not experienced before.
The set of roadblocks each individual face may look different, but they can essentially be boiled down to fears to overcome. Most of the roadblocks standing between you now and you in your desired place are in your mind.
Realize ‘Comfortable’ is NOT the Goal
We are accustomed to where we are, even if it’s not great, familiar is tough to deliberately move away from. Fear keeps us from believing we can change/be different. And being comfortable has become our normal. The people that are the most ‘jazzed’ about life and themselves are doing things that make them uncomfortable on a regular basis. Feeling the fear and doing it anyway is how dreams are realized. Which leads me to…
Break It Down
Your dream should feel at least a bit daunting, or it isn’t going to change you and expand you for the better. Realize that you don’t have to do everything at once. Start small. Very, very small. Outline some broad steps you need to take in order to meet your goal. Break down those broad steps and then break them down again. Break them down to the point that doing one small action toward your goal each day feels easy.
Believe that it’s Possible
Looking around to see that others are doing what you want is a great way to believe that what you want is possible for you.
Do Something Radical
My first client’s very first step was hiring a Life Coach! In her world, this was a radical step. People where she was didn’t know what a Life Coach was. In order to get where you’ve not been before will require you to do things you haven’t done before.
There will come a point in your journey, or maybe several points, where you will face doing something that will fire up all your fear alarms. You will again need to face the fear and do it anyway. It is so much easier to overcome fears and get out of your own way with support. My first client had to fill out a job application and show up for an interview—things that terrified her, but, she had me, someone who could guide her with tools that work and give support and encouragement through the process.
And Why You Should
Why should you put yourself through the stress and uncomfortableness of going for your dream or anything that will improve your life for the better? My first client doing her dream attainment not only improved and expanded herself, but she set an example for her children. And who knows how many countless women benefitted from her fashion advice in that retail clothing store?! You becoming and being your full self helps everyone.
Want to go to your own NEXT LEVEL?
Need help breaking down those steps?
You’re worth it.
Certified Martha Beck Life Coach
What Now Life Coaching