Medication, hospitalization, frontal lobotomy?
I am surrounded by powerful, remarkable women at the end of their ropes.
They are everything to everyone and it's killing them
Self care is not a 'luxury' ladies, it is a necessity!
Tell me where I'm wrong? This is your life...
Whatever you are doing can be dropped right now to meet someone else's need, but your needs, demands, requests can wait.
You know that it is easier to just do it yourself than fight about getting someone else to "DO THEIR JOB!"
Your two kids and one husband knock on the bathroom door at least 8 times when you bathe.
You suffer body pain, headaches, insomnia, inappropriate bursts of anger, exhaustion, 'wtf attitude' and have just accepted it.
Someone asks you "what do you like to do?" and you are stumped.
If anyone says anything to you that is remotely encouraging on praise-like, you cry.
It can change. It has to change. And the change begins with you.
It doesn't matter if it's your 'fault' that you got here and have trained 'them' to treat you this way, it matters that you recognize that it is time for it to stop.
For the sake of your sanity and your actual, physical being in the world, you must change.
How do you make the seemingly HUGE changes that need to take place to stop the madness?
One small change at a time.
Start by being 'unavailable' for 10 minutes. Everyday. Then extend it to 15, then to 20, then (now don't hyperventilate!) a 'whole' day!
Start by saying NO to one thing. Just one thing, today!
Start by doing one thing you actually like.
Go to bed when you are tired, not when everything is done.
Eat because you're hungry, not because it's time.
Let someone think you are 'not nice.'
What's it going to take?