This is a stressful time of year and it is fraught with expectations (can you say, ‘possibly unrealistic?’) and pressures. The expectation that everyone and everything be jolly puts even more strain on any condition we are already experiencing.
Loss: If we’ve suffered any kind of loss, the grief is intensified.
Loneliness: If we experience feelings of loneliness, we feel even more alone now.
Not Where You Want to Be: If our situations are less than ideal, the expectations arising this time of year, makes our situations feel even lesser than.
If you are experiencing any of the following this holiday season:
Overall low energy
I have so much compassion for you! 'been there, done all of that. You could use some support.
What You Really Need
Sure, read the Self-Help/DIY stuff. There are thousands of self-help hints appearing everywhere, (here’s a ‘gooder’ I wrote previously - Happy Holiday Pre-Plan).
But, having a safe place to vent and someone to provide actual, helpful feedback and suggestions for effective shifts that apply to your unique situation, is most helpful.
Instead of crossing your fingers, hoping all will be well or white knuckling through, filled with resentment and left empty, tired and/or sad, I have helpful ways that can shift, firstly you, and possibly whole situations.
Allow the season to be different for you. In order for something to be different, only one thing needs to change. That something can be you.
Give Yourself the Gift of Support.