Why Saying Yes When You Mean No Makes You a Jerk,
it is imperative that you learn to tap into your unique, finely crafted tuning device that tells you exactly what is a ‘Heck, Yes!’ for you.
How to Identify a Yes
(Using Song Titles – to help you ‘tune’ in!)
You Light Up My Life.
As mentioned in the last blog, when an idea or suggestion comes to you and you feel a surge of powerful energy—a lighting up—a spark; that is the sign you are looking for. Pursue that.
Let’s Get Physical
I’ve mentioned this often; having chronic headaches, pains, recurring flues and colds and overall being tired all the time are signs that you need to make changes in your life. The opposite happens when you are onto your yes. You will feel physically stronger. You will feel more energetic. If you have physical ailments they will lessen or disappear. Observe your body.
Do You Remember? (the 21st night of September)
When you are onto the ‘thing’ that is for you, your memory will be very sharp. You will resurrect facts or memories that you didn’t know you had. If it is something very new to you, you will be surprised at how easily you grab and retain any information pertaining to your new interest.
Let’s Do The Time Warp Again
Any activity that engages you to the point where you lose track of time tells you that this is a yes for you. Do more of that activity. Disclaimer: Drugs, alcohol, risky behaviours are not what I’m talking about here.
I Like To Be With Me When I’m With You
Pay attention to the people you hang with. When you spend time with people who ‘get’ you, who encourage, support and genuinely like you, all of your superpowers are strengthened. You will be able to find clarity around what actions to pursue when you are getting feedback from people truly in your corner. You will feel like the best version of yourself with the right people.
Magnet and Steel
The things that are a yes for you have an almost magnetic pull. You are literally attracted to people and places that are right for you. Become aware of any magnetic feeling.
Rocky Mountain High
There is a kind of enjoyment or natural high that only comes from being in your happy place—our ‘zone.’ Activities, people, places, events that give you that natural high feeling are where your time is best spent.
There you go folks, only what’s yes for you will feel like these song titles. You can also use these as guides for making any kind of yes or no decision —what should I wear? Where should I vacation? What should I order? Continually ask yourself: Does it: Light me up? ‘Make me feel strong? Cause fun facts to tumble out of me? Take me out of time and space? Give me the urge to merge with it?