Life on Purpose
I remember a conversation with my sister in which she was telling me about a course she was taking and all the material she was reading, along with books on major topics that related to her studies. I asked her, “Do you ever read fiction?” Silence. “Like, do you ever read for pleasure?” She laughed hysterically.
How Much of Your Time is Spent Doing Things That Are “Good” For You?
Do you eat food because it’s ‘good’ for you? Do go to the gym because you’re ‘supposed’ to? Do you hang out with people because they’re the ‘right’ crowd? How much of how you spend your time is how you want to spend your time? What is your real purpose?
Before you do the next thing that is ‘good’ for you, consider these two points;
What is the underlying motivation for doing these ‘good’ and right things?
1) Is it so that you’ll look good and people will like you?
Then what? If you look good and people like you, you’ll feel what?
2) What happens when you sit with yourself and say, “I am already enough. Right here, in this moment, I am perfect?” “I give myself permission to like myself.”
Do you feel like your ‘real’ self? Do you feel worthy of happiness and acceptance? Does it make you feel like you have purpose?
Begin with The End Result
If you BEGIN by giving yourself the permission/validation and self-approval that you want to receive from the outside by doing all the right, good-for-you- things, then it’s time to consider the following:
Is the thing that’s good for you what you want to do right now? If it’s a big fat no, then ask yourself, from that already good enough place, what would FEEL good right now? Maybe, it’s a nap, or a walk, or playing a game. How would behave if you were already the 'ideal' version of yourself?
But, What About Responsibility?
Now I know your inner dictator is having a scream fest right now telling you that if you don’t go to the gym, eat that food, kiss those people’s @*$$, etc. that catastrophic things will happen to your life, but ask that dictator, if I give myself what these behaviours/people can give me, then why can’t I choose what is meaningful and has purpose for me?
I hope you know your real purpose is to accept yourself, just as you are. Your real purpose is to enjoy your existence. If you have health issues, relationship difficulties or your security is being threatened, then yes, you must attend to those things so that you can enjoy your existence. Even inside of grown up responsibilities there are choices to have fun and accept yourself.
Try turning things upside down and ask some questions. Nothing is more of a service to you, your loved ones and your greater community than you being happy on purpose.
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