Are You Stuck?
Is there something you are working toward or a change you want to make and it just isn’t happening?
Most people, and me, become stuck at some point or another because we want to achieve something, but old programming, past failures and fear are keeping us from the desire or goal. When this happens we have choices; 1) Give up the goal and learn to be content. 2) Pick a different focus 3) Wait to be rescued. 4) Face what is holding you back.
Here’s the quick and dirty; 1, 2 and 3 are not going to work. These are delay and stalling tactics. Choosing these options just keep your wheels spinning. You may feel like you are getting some traction, or relieved when someone bails you out, but you won’t get far before you wind up stuck again, because….
The desire you have is the precise force that will drive you to overcome your challenge. It will nag, itch, burn, return and keep getting you stuck until something internal changes. The reason you want what you want is so that you have to work for it. The working for it is how you grow and develop into who you want to be. To use a metaphor—you lift heavy weights at the gym to become strong and toned. The weights are the means to your desired end. The challenge you must face to get what you want is the means to the end which is a more realized you.
So what exactly is holding you back and how do you get around it? First, you must ask yourself the tough questions; What am I avoiding? What is making me afraid? What is the thing I must do, that I don’t want to do, in order to get what I want? What has to change in order for me to move forward? Once you face what’s blocking you, then you must do what Martha Beck says; let it kill you. That’s right, doing the very thing that you’re afraid to do may feel a bit like death and in fact it is a death. Whatever you are holding on to must be let go and that part of you, the fear, the ‘little’ you, must die.
Think back. There was a previous challenge in your life and you faced it. Remember how afterward you were so relieved and maybe even laughed a little that you took so long to do it and how great it felt on the other side? And, you realized it made you better, stronger, faster, etc.
Have the conversation. Sign up for the work. Face the consequences. Ask for help. Make the leap. Part of you will die. The reward is not only the achievement of your desire but the expansion, the resurrection of your empowered self.
Is there something you are working toward or a change you want to make and it just isn’t happening?
Most people, and me, become stuck at some point or another because we want to achieve something, but old programming, past failures and fear are keeping us from the desire or goal. When this happens we have choices; 1) Give up the goal and learn to be content. 2) Pick a different focus 3) Wait to be rescued. 4) Face what is holding you back.
Here’s the quick and dirty; 1, 2 and 3 are not going to work. These are delay and stalling tactics. Choosing these options just keep your wheels spinning. You may feel like you are getting some traction, or relieved when someone bails you out, but you won’t get far before you wind up stuck again, because….
The desire you have is the precise force that will drive you to overcome your challenge. It will nag, itch, burn, return and keep getting you stuck until something internal changes. The reason you want what you want is so that you have to work for it. The working for it is how you grow and develop into who you want to be. To use a metaphor—you lift heavy weights at the gym to become strong and toned. The weights are the means to your desired end. The challenge you must face to get what you want is the means to the end which is a more realized you.
So what exactly is holding you back and how do you get around it? First, you must ask yourself the tough questions; What am I avoiding? What is making me afraid? What is the thing I must do, that I don’t want to do, in order to get what I want? What has to change in order for me to move forward? Once you face what’s blocking you, then you must do what Martha Beck says; let it kill you. That’s right, doing the very thing that you’re afraid to do may feel a bit like death and in fact it is a death. Whatever you are holding on to must be let go and that part of you, the fear, the ‘little’ you, must die.
Think back. There was a previous challenge in your life and you faced it. Remember how afterward you were so relieved and maybe even laughed a little that you took so long to do it and how great it felt on the other side? And, you realized it made you better, stronger, faster, etc.
Have the conversation. Sign up for the work. Face the consequences. Ask for help. Make the leap. Part of you will die. The reward is not only the achievement of your desire but the expansion, the resurrection of your empowered self.
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