It really, really made me think about how many times in how many situations I have tried to make myself into someone I am not in order to fit in. It makes me sad, because when I did this, I was lying! Lying to myself and everyone else.
And to carry the illustration further, I then thought about wanting things that aren’t mine to have. So, using the funny meme, let us suppose the cat wants the penguin job so he can enjoy the penguin ‘perks.’ But, at what cost? He can never go onto all four paws, he has to squawk and not meow, he has to swim in water(!), well… you get the point.
And, because I have experienced ‘faking’ it and pretending and maybe you have too— maybe you still are? —we all know how exhausting it is! At the end of the day, the cat has to know that that the penguin perks are not worth the soul destruction.
Our External Lives
Which brings me to something I read this week that speaks to our current social isolation/distancing situation; Being prevented from engaging in our external lives makes us either miss it or be happy to be away from it.
This also made me laugh because it just so precisely hit the mark!
This has been said, and I’m repeating it because it’s very much hitting home for me; this situation can be the opportunity to make real changes. I am over trying to ‘fit in’ where I don’t belong—acting like someone I’m not. I am also clear on what I am missing and what (and who) I am happy to be away from.
Which is it for you? Are you missing your external life or are you happy to be away from it? What is this situation showing you about how you have been living your life?
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but with this, we just can’t.
We are forced to stay present and, at most, plan a day or two ahead.
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