You Know You Know
I know exactly what she’s asking about. I was and still am, in many cases, looking for the ‘magic answer.’ The magic answer that will make me thin, restore my relationships, make me happy, give me success. But, as you know, even if you don’t want to know, there is no magic answer.
We all search outside of ourselves for wisdom, advice and direction. And that’s ok. But we still must apply that wisdom, advice and direction to our lives. And even then, what works for someone else, may not work for us. In fact, it rarely does because all the factors that go into making us, us, cannot be duplicated.
Cue Eye Roll
The answer to all of your questions about you, is inside of you. There, I said it! Sorry, I can’t figure out a less Yoda/guru way to say it. The answer is also, you have to figure you out. It gets confusing when we are always being ‘sold’ to. Someone is always telling us they have the answer to whatever it is you feel you are deficient in, or you could improve. Don’t be tricked. You have the answers. You have to figure it out by trial and error.
Clues to Observe
Your body may tell you what works in the form of ease and energy and what doesn’t in the form of sluggishness, discomfort and dis-ease.
Your mind may tell you what works in the form of calm and peace and in the form of anxiety and stress, what doesn’t.
Your heart may tell you in the form of openness and lightness what works and in the form of tightness and contraction what doesn’t.
You Spirit may tell you what works in the form of ‘knowing,’ synchronicities and signs that are meaningful to you and what doesn’t in the form of blankness and heaviness.
Your Journey and My Journey are Not the Same
To answer my friend’s question honestly, I would have to go back and recount all of the lessons I’ve learned, transitions I’ve made, behaviours and beliefs that I’ve added and behaviours and beliefs I’ve dropped. And what I'm doing now, today will most likely change tomorrow. And even if, she could somehow duplicate everything I have done and am doing, her results would be different. Our journeys are different. Keep all this in mind when you're 'following' someone.
Want to hear the answers coming from within yourself? Slow down. Stop even. Ask questions. Observe. The answers will come. And then… act on them.
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