My clients, I have found, come in two categories; those that are open to trying new things and different ways of thinking and those who have a ready answer to why new and different things won’t work for them.
If you fall into the category of having really great excuses, do not despair! I have information for you.
Defense is a Protection
The reality is, that we control very little of what goes on in the world*, therefore, fear very often is in the drivers’ seat of our lives. And fear’s number one job is to keep you safe. So, by not altering or stepping out of an environment that you are already comfortable with (even if it’s not great! (So, Why Won’t You Leave a Terrible Situation?), fear is keeping you from potential harm. But, it is also keeping you from potential expansion and joy.
*(We do, however, control our thoughts and behaviours/responses)
Bumps and Bruises May Ensue
Yes, there are risks when you step out/embrace change;
When you’re vulnerable, you might get your feelings hurt.
When you attempt new skills, you might feel awkward and embarrassed.
When you reveal your true likes, dislikes and embrace your authentic nature, some people may reject you.
But guess what? Hurt feelings do not cause death.
Awkwardness and embarrassment go away when you master new tasks.
New people who really like YOU show up.
You’ve done this many times already. You expanded and discovered new things about yourself and the world.
Why Should I Risk it?
On the other side of trying new ways to enjoy life is discovering that vulnerability makes you feel more alive, that sucking at something you love is still better than being skilled at doing what you hate and being able to express your true self feels like delicious relief. Could being vulnerable, expanding further and expressing authentically be worth doing if it leads to a more enjoyable life?
‘Two types of clients; those who consider possibilities and those who dismiss possibilities. Guess which clients get better results, when the results are enjoying their life more?