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Is Punishing Yourself Working?
When I say ‘punish’ do you conjure up images of lashing yourself with a whip or sending yourself to stand in a corner until you fully realize the error of your ways and feel bad enough to not do it again? ‘not what I’m talking about.
What I mean by ‘punish’ is, how often you mentally berate yourself. You ate a piece of cake and your mental chatter kicks in with, ‘you should NOT have eaten that! You are on a diet, remember? You’re always cheating!’ Or, you’re gratefully tucked up into your bed and begin to go over all the things you ‘didn’t’ do that you were ‘supposed’ to do and all the things you did that you weren’t ‘supposed’ to do and now you’re awake well past your ideal sleeping time and you beat yourself up about that too.
How’s That Working for You?
The Sad/Bad News
I’ve talked about being ‘set’ to the negative before – our minds scanning for threats, so it’s ‘human nature’ that we scan our behaviours and do the same. We are also ‘programmed’ to criticize because of the inundation of ‘how to be perfect’ social construct we exist in. The more we concentrate on the negative and continually re-enforce it with our negative thought patterns, the less likely we will have any kind of success in changing our behaviours. That’s the sad/bad news.
The Good News
The antidote to all that negative thought looping, and in turn, no changed behaviour,
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What I mean by ‘punish’ is, how often you mentally berate yourself. You ate a piece of cake and your mental chatter kicks in with, ‘you should NOT have eaten that! You are on a diet, remember? You’re always cheating!’ Or, you’re gratefully tucked up into your bed and begin to go over all the things you ‘didn’t’ do that you were ‘supposed’ to do and all the things you did that you weren’t ‘supposed’ to do and now you’re awake well past your ideal sleeping time and you beat yourself up about that too.
How’s That Working for You?
The Sad/Bad News
I’ve talked about being ‘set’ to the negative before – our minds scanning for threats, so it’s ‘human nature’ that we scan our behaviours and do the same. We are also ‘programmed’ to criticize because of the inundation of ‘how to be perfect’ social construct we exist in. The more we concentrate on the negative and continually re-enforce it with our negative thought patterns, the less likely we will have any kind of success in changing our behaviours. That’s the sad/bad news.
The Good News
The antidote to all that negative thought looping, and in turn, no changed behaviour,
Continue Reading....
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I'm Jennifer Washington. I am a certified Martha Beck Life Coach. What does that mean? Once I completed the extensive, intensive, MBI (Martha Beck Inc) Life Coach Training in 2010, the brilliant, Dr. Martha Beck personally tested and declared me worthy to Life Coach . I help women resurrect their lost or forgotten selves and create lives that are authentic for them. |
Why I Became A Life Coach
A few years ago I woke up inside myself. Some would describe it as a mid-life crisis or a meltdown. I knew I needed help, but I didn’t know how to start. The closest I could come to activating a search engine investigation was “What Now?” I came to a cruel realization that I had done everything I was ‘supposed’ to do and I was miserable.
Fast forward to the present, after Life Coaching entered my world. I now describe that melt down as my awakening. I’ve discovered my inner guidance, how it works and I can teach you!
If you are at a point in your journey where the most resounding question you have is “What Now?” please email: coachjenniferwashington@gmail.com
Fast forward to the present, after Life Coaching entered my world. I now describe that melt down as my awakening. I’ve discovered my inner guidance, how it works and I can teach you!
If you are at a point in your journey where the most resounding question you have is “What Now?” please email: coachjenniferwashington@gmail.com
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Why Is My Business Called "What Now? Life Coaching?"
What Clients Are Saying About What Now Life Coaching
Jennifer Washington is awesome and inspiring. Her guidance has been life changing. Jenn has walked beside me in my life journey and is always rooting for me. What a wonderful feeling having her in my corner. Jennifer continues to support my search for worthiness and peace. She constantly inspires me to continue to work toward emotional healing – not doing it for me, but giving me the tools to move forward with a courageous desire to overcome my self-imposed limitations. Jennifer’s ability to guide and remind me of my worth and helping me see myself in a realistic light is amazing and a complete blessing to me. She has lead me to recognize and see past my imperfection to understand “I am good enough”. Thank you Jennifer for your generous and encouraging guidance and support while taking this journey with me. -Marsha; Corporate Consultant
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"I think what you do when you are listening to me during our sessions is listening for meaning behind the stories...the content is kind of the 'noise.' I see now I have choices in my life (therefore freedom), to make the best ones I can with what I have, to take responsibility for outcomes, 'forgiving myself. Letting others make their own choices. Having a choice about how to feel about outcomes. Not taking responsibility for other people's choices. You do good work, Sistah!
-Jaquelyn, Medical Intuitive. |
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I never thought I was the type of person that would ever need or want a life coach figuring I could always sort out everything by myself - that was what I had always done.
I had a certain amount of pride in that. However, my life was starting to unravel, a little bit at a time. I was starting to wonder who I really was and how the rest of my life was going to play out. Even more importantly I could feel I wasn’t living a very authentic life and was definitely not living to my potential. Nor was I living the creative life that I yearned for. I had several projects on the go, some failing, some barely started, but nothing felt right. I knew I wasn’t moving in the right direction. And really, on a whim I called Jen. What could it hurt I thought? The truth is it didn’t hurt, and it was easy compared to how I was trying to sort though challenges on my own. The most important thing that Jen has done is to give me the tools I need to manage problems and even my relationships. She has helped me to see past my old habitual ways of trying to ‘fix’ problems and people. Just a little shift in my thinking and perceptions has produced amazing results. Jen is intuitive, nonjudgemental and positive. I look forward to our sessions. Every week I see real life results. Today I look forward to the future with energy and a happy expectation. Ruth, Author |