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Confessions of a Feeling Fleer

9/4/2013

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Way back, remember, Oprah recommended that everyone write in a gratitude journal? It was all the rage.  She attributed her success to being genuinely thankful.  I, of course, went out and bought a pretty journal specifically for recording the things I was thankful for.  I did that for about…. 3 days.  All of my items seemed so lame.  I am thankful for water.  I am thankful for air.  I am thankful for my kids.  Of course I knew the importance of all of them, but I was not connecting to the ‘feeling’ of gratitude, which was the whole point, which I clearly didn’t get.

Fast forward to present. My life coach has me make a list of 100 things I’m grateful for.  Are you kidding me? Really?  Frig. So off to Starbuck’s I go, because I am nothing if not obedient. 
I buy myself a good coffee and a sweet treat and set out my purple pen and cool notebook. I begin by making a list of numbers 1 to 100.  Yum this coffee is good. Oooh, I’m liking this blueberry crumble thingy.  Ding, ding, ding.  Connection.  Enjoyment, Appreciation, Grateful!

This ‘connection’ did not just magically happen in that moment.  I have been going through quite a
rigorous process in order to arrive at the feeling of gratitude.  It turns out the origin of my disconnect was not knowing how to feel my feelings, period! I was trained not to trust my
feelings. First in childhood.  Nice girls don’t get mad.  Pretty girls don’t look sad.  And then later, at school.  Smart girls do what they’re told, no questions.  In church.  Good people don’t have
those thoughts.  Good people don’t feel that way.  Like I said, I am a very good student, so I believed it all.  I take all the responsibility for my beliefs and my actions. No one forced me to be nice, be quiet, ‘deny my humanness.  I was well liked and well behaved for a long time.  I just wasn’t very happy.

The process has involved me learning how to feel my feelings and think my thoughts, and process all the ones that were stuck for years.  Because, as you probably already know, when you stuff the so called ‘bad’ feelings, you deaden the ‘good’ ones too.  When I became tired of being nice and unhappy and started searching for answers, I learned that my thoughts and feelings are ok, real, normal, ‘human!’ The decision to ‘act’ on my thoughts and feelings is completely my choice. Heck,
I even get to CHOOSE my thoughts and feelings!  Ding, ding, ding!  Now I know that the more I allow myself to feel happy, mad, sad, glad the more I can feel , happiness, appreciation, gratitude. Which is, the point of life.
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Sue link
27/4/2013 04:21:14 am

I really like this post. We are conditioned from a young age about not only how we should behave, but how we should feel. I like your insight and how it's important to conjure up the feeling of gratitude, not just write it down.

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Jennifer link
29/4/2013 01:06:21 am

Thanks Sue!
That's so true about our feelings being conditioned. 'took me a long time to figure that out. 'still working on it.
I appreciate you leaving a comment :)

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