I am truly enjoying the season. I have prepared and organized a myriad of events and of course decorating, gift shopping, wrapping and the regular day to day necessary requirements in a reasonably calm and relaxed manner. More so than I have at any other time in my life. I am happy to see some evidence that the daily inner work really does pay off. Also making things easier is my lowered expectations. I am looking forward to just being with my family. There is nothing that has to be ‘perfect.’ There are no major plans of any kind or obligations to fulfill. We will just go with the flow and do/go as needed.
We are all urged to remember those less fortunate at this time of year, to donate time and money to charities. I want to add my own reminder at this time as well. It is easy to forget that there are people close to us who have suffered loss over this past year, or even the past several years. If you are related to or friends with anyone who has lost someone to death, or divorce remember that the holidays are a very painful time for them. Even if it has been several years, the person they are missing still takes up space during these times. A simple acknowledgement from you can go a long way to giving them comfort. Offer to listen to their memories or even to share their pain. Don’t expect them to smile and get over it! The gift of awareness and presence can never be overdone.
If you are the one that is feeling the loss, be sure to nurture yourself. Take time to acknowledge your sadness, anger, fear. Talk to someone. Write in a journal. Just get it out. The more you try to stuff down/deny your pain, the more wear and tear on you. You don’t want to be so overwhelmed by your grief/anger/fear that you miss the goodness that is around you. Once you’ve purged, put the sadness aside for a while and allow yourself to enjoy what’s going on at the moment.
I wish you much peace and joy. I sincerely hope that this is a happy time for all of you and that you are blessed in many ways this Christmas season.
We are all urged to remember those less fortunate at this time of year, to donate time and money to charities. I want to add my own reminder at this time as well. It is easy to forget that there are people close to us who have suffered loss over this past year, or even the past several years. If you are related to or friends with anyone who has lost someone to death, or divorce remember that the holidays are a very painful time for them. Even if it has been several years, the person they are missing still takes up space during these times. A simple acknowledgement from you can go a long way to giving them comfort. Offer to listen to their memories or even to share their pain. Don’t expect them to smile and get over it! The gift of awareness and presence can never be overdone.
If you are the one that is feeling the loss, be sure to nurture yourself. Take time to acknowledge your sadness, anger, fear. Talk to someone. Write in a journal. Just get it out. The more you try to stuff down/deny your pain, the more wear and tear on you. You don’t want to be so overwhelmed by your grief/anger/fear that you miss the goodness that is around you. Once you’ve purged, put the sadness aside for a while and allow yourself to enjoy what’s going on at the moment.
I wish you much peace and joy. I sincerely hope that this is a happy time for all of you and that you are blessed in many ways this Christmas season.
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